So to further discuss my "advice" giving session with my two high school friends...
Basically, they wanted to know what it means if a dude only calls you on the weekends, when he wants to hook up. I mean...if they thought about it for a hot minute, they would get exactly what it means. But I realized they are probably a little new to the whole "booty call" thing, so I tried to dumb it down and explain it without being too graphic.
I explained that if you just reply to the text, accepting the offer to hang out, then put out, that you are giving them exactly what they want. I suggested maybe playing a little harder to get.
"Like, when he texts you tonight, just don't reply right away. Even if you wait an hour, it will drive him crazy," I explained, like I really have any idea what I'm talking about when it comes to dudes.
As I was driving home after that, I was thinking about my words. And I realized I do the exact opposite of what I told the girls to do.
When Matt and I broke up in high school, I decided that minute I would never play games with him. If I wanted to talk to him, I would call him. If he asked how I was feeling, I would tell him. Maybe my brutal honesty is what kept that relationship going...and going...and going...for years after it should have ended. In my head, I thought if I was just totally honest and never played games, I would get my boy back. But that's the thing - it did end, badly. And I never got the dude.
I must have just adapted that mentality...don't play games....into my other relationships as well. The problem is, those guys THINK I am playing games, therefore try harder. Example:
One dude, we'll call him Mario, wanted to make out one night. "No, I don't want to," I insisted, backing away from him. I then was standoffish and cold to him for the rest of the night, and it ended with him saying to me "you know, when you act like you don't want me it just makes me want you more."
Dude, what aren't you getting? It's not an act, it's the damn truth.
Also, this guy ...who is the same as this guy ... texted me last weekend. Seriously. After years of blowing him off, not responding to texts, telling him I'm not interested...he still tries. He still thinks I am just being a trick and playing hard to get.
So the moral of the story is what? Maybe I should start playing games and nab me a husband? Nah. Keep being honest and fabulous? Okay.
P.S. I am not saying all wives/girlfriends are game players. I am saying I have yet to meet a dude who is man enough to deal with my non-game playing ways.