For some reason, as of late, I've noticed that guys really like to sleep with their ex-girlfriends. I've heard of two instances in recent history where a guy is dating someone else, and then they get caught with their ex. As most of you know, I'm not a big fan of monogamy or relationships. So I get wanting to "reheat leftover pizza" (that is a quote from the male mind I use to bounce ideas off of). However, I am not okay with this reasoning, which was given to both of my female friends by their male companions:
"I am totally into you. But I just needed to give her one more chance, to make sure there wasn't anything there. I know now, without a doubt, it's over with her."
Give me a break. That is not true. And the worst part is, my friends BELIEVE this bullshit! Friends, listen here: your guy just wanted to "snowplow her again" (another quote from the male). Now it's just up to you to decide if you want to keep them or not. But if you do keep them, just know he will probably be screwing her doors off again sometime in the future.
Another one of my friends ended a relationship a few weeks ago. This guy was an asshat (but all guys are asshats, according to my male), but the worst part is he was MEAN to her. He would make her cry at least once a weekend and he would play into her insecurities. He was our age, but acted like he was 21 and spent his weekends wasted. During the relationship, especially towards the end, I would often ask her "what is it that you are fighting for? He isn't even nice to you and you cry all the time, and I don't even think you like him that much."
It was all set up for her to end the relationship. But what does she do? She lets him take control, so he dumps her. Now, weeks later, we are still mourning over this guy who was (and I can only assume, still is) a complete douchebag. And the worst part is, she is now sugar coating the relationship.
"He was really nice sometimes, wasn't he? There were some good times, right? He really liked me in the beginning."
Come on, yo. He was not nice to you. Ever.
Okay, I take that back. He was nice to you maybe twenty percent of the time. If one of my students was giving a 20% effort in one of their classes, I would encourage dropping that class.Which he did.
And don't get me wrong, I get that it takes a long time to get over people. Trust me, I get that probably better than anyone. But I can't deal with these stupid excuses. Which is probably why I will remain single forever.